Every normal person feels home sickness while working or studying far from their homes and family, as i do. But sometimes it becomes almost imposible for ’some’ peoples while staying away from their home whether for job, study or business. Since i myself belong to a ‘Saraiki‘ society spread all over the Southern Punjab, i felt this factor becomes very very important. This might be the reason that very few youngsters join Pakistan Army.
There is a folk related to the behvior of peoples living in Southern Punjab, especially in Bahawalpur - Once Nawab of Bahawalpur became happy from one of his companion, so he decided to award him. He alotted him thousand acres of land to cultivate, but this land was located in Bahawalnagar instead of Bahawalpur. The poor guy prepared and left to its new becoming home. Though he was also taking his family with him but still he was too much hesitated about leaving his home. He stayed outside the city for two months, meanwhile Nawab of Bahawalpur has to pass near to his stay. The Nawab asked him “What are you doing here ? Didn’t i sent you to Bahawalnagar ?” The poor man replied “Your excellency, please forgive me because i do not want to get this opportunity. It is almost impossible for me to leave my home and live at new place with quiet new peoples”. The Nawab shocked and said, “well, you yourself are not interested in changing your own fate”.
I also observed this psychology several times (as i myself belong to Bahawalpur), but i am always confused in deciding whether it is right or wrong. My contention is that if you do not want to leave your parents who are old and need your assistance at that stage of their life then your hesitation to leave the home is probably right. Its tenth year that i am away from my parents for study and i know that i cannt start my career in Bahawalpur (there are not enough opportunities related to my field). It is also apparent that my parents will would not like to leave their companions with which they spent their life, to live with me outside Bahawalpur. Parents do require our attention in the later part of their age as they did for us when we needed it. One can say that it was their duty, so isn’t it our duty at this time. So what i will do ? quiet unware of it right at the moment, may ALLAH guid me with the best.
On the other hand if some one is hesitating just because he doesn’t want to face difficulties, in this case it is crime. If you are always stuck at your home then you are adding one more obstacle in the development of your country. In Saraiki society there is a famous qoute about this, “Half bread at home is better than two earned away”. I dont know in which sence this saying is established ? As a whole it is dangerous to follow this saying. Think if the companions of Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) had thought like that while leaving their home then i might be bowing down before some idol made of mud. Thank GOD they didn’t thoght like the people of ‘Souhern Punjab’.
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